Change is uncomfortable. Growth is uncomfortable. And the art of becoming? Well, that might be the most uncomfortable thing of all.
Lately, I have been thinking a lot about what it means to become. Not necessarily becoming someone new, but becoming more of the person we were meant to be. We are here to grow, learn, stretch, and challenge ourselves. Yet, somehow, we expect that process to be easy. Spoiler alert: It isn’t.
The truth is that becoming is often painful. It requires us to step outside what is comfortable and familiar. Sometimes, it even asks us to let go of the person we thought we were to discover who we might become. As I have learned over the years, most things worth doing are hard. Perhaps that is what makes them worthwhile.

Fifteen Years of Stretching
For fifteen years, I have shown up here each week to share my thoughts, stories, and heart with you. What started as a little blog about people making a difference has become so much more. However, I can still remember how terrifying it felt to push that publish button for the first time.
Who was I to think anyone wanted to hear what I had to say?

Then came the Charity Matters Podcast. Suddenly, I had to learn how to interview people, record conversations, edit audio, and share those stories with the world. Once again, I was terrified. What if I wasn’t good enough? What if nobody listened?
Of course, the next big leap was writing Change for Good. Putting my words into a book felt like standing naked in the middle of a crowded room. There was nowhere to hide. Every insecurity and doubt came along for the ride. Each experience made me feel vulnerable. At times, I felt like an imposter. Yet, every single one helped me grow in ways I never imagined.
None of it was easy. All of it was worth it.

The Next Scary Thing
This season of life has brought another challenge. I have been pushing myself to speak on more stages and share my message that helping is healing. My hope is to inspire more people to discover how service can change their lives for good.
Interestingly, while public speaking terrifies most people, I am relatively comfortable on a stage. Give me a microphone and an audience, and I am pretty happy.
Want to know what absolutely terrifies me? The selfie video camera. Yes, that tiny little camera on my phone sends me into a complete panic. I would rather stand in front of five hundred strangers than record myself talking into my phone for thirty seconds. Ridiculous? Probably. True? Absolutely.
For years, I have happily hidden behind the remarkable nonprofit founders whose stories I share. They are the heroes, and I am simply the storyteller. Besides, who wants to look at themselves on camera? Not me! However, I am beginning to realize that sometimes hiding behind our comfort zones is simply another way of avoiding growth.

A Little Inspiration and a Lot of Fear
Recently, I watched a woman about my age on Instagram who shared something that stopped me in my tracks. Every year, she challenges herself to do one big, scary thing. This year, she is going heli-skiing. Yes, jumping out of a helicopter onto a mountain to ski. No thank you!
In addition, each month she chooses something smaller that scares her. Her goal is to keep growing, learning, and pushing herself beyond what feels comfortable.
Last month, her challenge was to post a selfie video every single day. I was in awe. Not of the helicopter or the skiing, but of her willingness to be vulnerable. Just thinking about filming myself every day made me break out in a cold sweat.
Then I had a thought. If she can do it, why can’t I? And just like that, I had my next challenge.

Ready or Not, Here I Come
So here we go. I am learning how to film myself, use Instagram Edits, add captions, and figure out this whole new world of video. Yikes! This should be interesting.
Of course, the technology isn’t really what scares me. It is the thought of putting myself out there to be judged, criticized, or worse, ignored. What if I look ridiculous? Or if I say something stupid? What if nobody cares?
Then I ask myself a better question. What is the worst thing that could really happen? Someone scrolls past? Someone doesn’t like my message? I make a mistake? I have survived much harder things than that.
More importantly, what if someone actually needs to hear what I have to say? What if one person discovers that helping someone else might be the very thing that helps them heal? If I believe so deeply that service changes lives, then why the heck am I letting a little camera stop me from sharing that message?

Becoming Together
Over the past few weeks, I have written a lot about time, loss, change, and what truly matters. Perhaps all of those thoughts have led me right here. Time is passing whether we choose to grow or not. We can stay comfortable, or we can use the time we have to become something more.
At sixty, I am realizing that becoming doesn’t have an expiration date. We are never too old to learn something new, make a fool of ourselves, or discover another part of who we are meant to be. So, consider this my public declaration. I am scared. I am uncomfortable. And I am doing it anyway. I am jumping all into the arena.
As Teddy Roosevelt said,” It is not the critic who counts: not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles or where the doer of deeds could have done better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood, who strives valiantly, who errs and comes up short again and again, because there is no effort without error or shortcoming, but who knows the great enthusiasms, the great devotions, who spends himself in a worthy cause; who, at the best, knows, in the end, the triumph of high achievement, and who, at the worst, if he fails, at least he fails while daring greatly, so that his place shall never be with those cold and timid souls who knew neither victory nor defeat.”
More than anything, I am grateful for this community that has encouraged me through every chapter of becoming. After all, none of us is a finished product. We are all works in progress, learning, stumbling, stretching, and hopefully growing along the way.
Perhaps the art of becoming isn’t about arriving at who we are meant to be. Maybe it is simply having the courage to keep becoming. And how lucky are we that we get to do it together?
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